If you’re not in the mood for a rant today, skedaddle…scram…see ya next week when I’m back to bubbly April!
My inner Paris Geller is about to take over my blog, because she is sick and tired of all the people who act Entitled. To. Everything.
Do you realize that bloggers (and podcasters and video creators) put in hours and hours to create free content for their followers?
They’re not doing it because they think every single blog reader will buy from them (in fact, they realize that most will never buy from them). They’re not doing it just to promote their businesses (at least most aren’t).
They want to inspire you.
They want to make you laugh out loud when you’re having a hellish day.
They want to educate you about their field of expertise, so you can learn things quicker and avoid the mistakes they made.
It’s the same with their products and services.
Most creative entrepreneurs aren’t trying to build billion dollar empires to buy an island and sip margaritas every day for the rest of their lives.
They want to make enough money to support a thriving business (including an assistant and maybe a copywriter and photographer) and their families.
They want to have enough money in their bank accounts so they can buy that new video camera without wondering if they really have the money to buy it. They want to take their families on vacation. They want to know that they have the funds to live a life that doesn’t include second guessing whether they can afford leggings from Lululemon or indulging in a green tea latte each morning.
They aren’t trying to trick you into buying their products or services.
Most creative entrepreneurs go out of their way to only sell to people who love their stuff by including information in their product descriptions or on their sales pages about who their products aren’t right for and who shouldn’t buy them.
They don’t want unhappy customers.
I certainly don’t.
It’s such a crappy feeling when you find out a customer isn’t satisfied. That’s why we try to avoid it as much as possible.
You should know this before you go out of your way to leave a mean comment on a blog post or write up a hateful review or email someone to let them know why you’re unsubscribing from their email list.
The person on the other side of the computer screen receiving your nasty comment or email doesn’t deserve your (mostly) idiotic insults because you’re having a bad day.
The topic of this blog post was sparked from watching a video on a blog post that was: hilarious, filled with helpful advice and more entertaining than 95% of the stuff out there.
I scrolled down to leave a comment about how much I loved the video and saw a rude, unnecessary comment.
It was filled with passive-aggressive language and the person was looking for the blogger to apologize to her because she was having trouble watching the FREE video.
Instead of thinking that she might need to do something on her end to watch it (which turned out to be the case because everyone else could watch the video), she wrote a crabby comment to someone who had spent time filming the video, paying a professional to edit the video and taking time to write accompanying copy.
I wonder if that commenter took even a second to realize how much time and effort had gone into creating that content.
Too often, I go to comment on a blog post or Instagram photo or Facebook post and see something hateful or rude. And, so much of it is women putting down other women.
I get my fair share of unappreciative comments on blog posts I spend 3-12 hours creating for others to enjoy for FREE.
Someone emailed me to say that they couldn’t stand my voice in my videos. Someone told me I needed to hire a stylist. Another person told me I was stupid due to a misspelling.
I understand that putting content into this world means you’re going to get criticism. But, that doesn’t mean you have to be a jerk.
Why waste your time trying to bring someone else down?
I’ve read many blog posts and watched online courses that weren’t my thing, but I didn’t feel compelled to leave a nasty comment. I moved onto something else–something I would hopefully enjoy.
The point is being a butt-faced miscreant (if you know that reference, we’re friends for life) is unacceptable.
Every single person you send a mean comment or email to is a HUMAN BEING just like you.
And, it doesn’t make that person look bad…it makes YOU look bad.
To everyone who puts their creative work out into the world even though they know they’re going to receive negative feedback, here’s a virtual high five.